Thursday, May 07, 2009
The Types of Love
Tonight I discussed the three types of Love from the bible. They are Eros, Phileo, and Agape? What are your thoughts on the types of love? Have you ever been driven by your desires(eros)? Have you been stuck in an arrangement(phileo)? Have you experienced unconditional love(agape)? Hollah at your pastor......RevCEGJr
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You said check you out, so I am. Never had sex, never been a girlfriend and never been in love. I approach every encounter/relationship with agape love. Now where it ends I dont know. I want to experience agape so I try to give everyone agape. Every commited relationship that I have attempted to have has been driven by eros, hence why they never really amounted to anything. Desire had me 'eyes wide shut', you hear me! I am stuck in phileo with a bff which will always be my bff, regardless, because our families are so close. I experience agape love on a daily basis. I love love and everything about it! One thing people must realize is that if love is of God and God is love, if you are not truly connected with God how can you really know how to love if you have never experienced His love? Great lesson by the way.
There are three kinds of “love” needed to make a relationship complete. They is AGAPE, PHILEO, and EROS.
*The highest form of these types of love is agape. Agape love is an unconditional love. It loves when all other types of love quit, and cares when there is no apparent reason to care. I feel this love towards God, best friend and family. I recieve agape love from God ad my famliy.
*Phileo love is the kind of love that makes agape love enjoyable. Phileo love is having tender affection toward your mate. Most friendships are built on phileo love. Phileo love is that “something” that you see in another person that draws you to be their friend. It’s one thing to unconditionally love (agape) someone who you don’t like to be around because they irritate you. I experience phileo and agape at the same time.
*Eros is the fulfillment of the physical sexual desire that should be shown between a husband and wife. It’s when “...the two ...become ONE FLESH” (Matthew 19:5).
I have experiences eros and have yielded to my desires on many occasions. Many people struggle with eros on a day to day basis. I know I do. I don't allow it to consume me but I know it is there.
I have given all three types of love out to some one but I have yet to experience agape love from a mate and I may never. Agape love is something I want to experience with my husband.
Love.... Broad subject isn't it? I'm not feelin' deep today, I'm feelin' real and truth be told I struggle quite a bit internally with Eros. It is true that human beings are part animal and I find myself closing my eyes prayin "Lord help me focus please!" about 90% of the time. Being a really passionate and deeply emotion-driven person does not help either because it often becomes difficult to keep healthy passion separate from lustful/sinful passion when it comes to someone you're really into. If God had a cell phone, I'd be callin' every 15 mins just to keep Eros in-check. Many people don't like to admit that their thoughts go there so often but the truth is the truth. I'm just not ashamed to admit it out loud.
As for Phileo, I've only found myself in that situation once and it didn't last long. I'm too spontaneous for monotony. I'm constantly adding more things to my list of interests so I will get bored with too much routine.
Agape.... I've experienced uncinditional more outside of my family than with blood-relatives. Sometimes I find it easier to love a complete stranger over a relative and with certain relatives in particular, I struggle with this. I have alot of "I love you good and bad but I really don't like you" relationships. Romantically, I have been loved but at the time I couldn't truly return the action because I knew OF God and believed in his existence. I didn't know Him though and I was still living life my way. I really didn't worry about marriage or a family until I got saved and it was then that I began to get fearful that I wouldn't experience agape in the marriage context. Part guilt from my past and part fear of being really bad at being a good Christian, and wife and mother just makes me a bit apprehensive toward "going-there". I don't think I'm ready now but I'll know I am if and when God says it is to be so. Until then... I will be working on getting a stronger grip on Eros!
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